Have you ever heard or participated in this type of conversation?
Mom 1: I am so tired. My baby was up 4 times last night and my husband slept through it all.
Mom 2: Oh that sucks. Our baby has been sleeping through the night since she was 3 weeks old. You should just let her cry. It’s hard, but it’s worth it.
…Or maybe you’ve been a part of this?
Mom 1: My baby just wants to nurse all night long. I can’t seem to be able to put her down. I feel like I can’t even get 10 minutes to go to the bathroom by myself.
Mom 2: Oh honey, this is just a phase. Enjoy it while you can because it’s gone in the blink of an eye.
Ugh… I feel so bad for mamas who are in either of these situations and feel as if they are doing something wrong or even worse, feel that they are losing a sense of themselves because of sheer sleep deprivation and overwhelm. The newborn phase of motherhood is so incredibly hard and we don’t give our mamas the support they need to navigate this huge change. Often unintentionally, we meet them with comments that validate our own experiences as a mother and leave the tired mamas Googling to figure out what is wrong with her baby (and her). I meet so many moms who feel like they are doing things “wrong” and don’t know where to turn, so I thought it might be helpful to talk a little bit about what is “normal” for sleep during the newborn months by debunking a few of the common myths. [Read more…]